By now, we all know David Boreanaz is no angel.

His wife has no illusions about it, either.

"I'm not saying everything's OK," Jaime Bergman tells People. "I'm still angry. I'm still mad. I am still hurt."

But like her mother, she's still hopeful that her marriage is salvageable.

"It took a crisis, it took infidelity to get us off our asses and work for what we want," she says.

"When we got married, we had an unbelievable foundation that we've never forgotten," the Bones-head admits. "But it's been damaged."

The couple, who have two children—Jaden, 8, and Bella, 8 months—wed in November 2001.

"What's working for us [is] taking our time, moment to moment, day to day," Jaime says. "We do the best we can. That's all we can do."